i usually just let it go. i was dubbed my little pony by coworkers and friends, but it's kinda fun to just play along. and once i used some kind of hair putty type shit but no spray or anything that would harden it. looked pretty good cuz it was chunky and spikey, but it was all layin down. like i just walked out of the rain or something. wish i had a pic..... oh well. that's my 2 cents
I mentioned somewhere on here that a good variation to the pony tail, is more of a sumo wrap. Basically, pony the top half, pony the bottom half, then pony them together wrapping the ball left behind up and underneath the bridge.
Its pretty tight, a little more somoan monster, which is closer to the 'hawk personality than creepy nerd or my little pony.
Of course, that being said, if I'm lazy, I pony up. At 7' and 320lbs I don't get much grief.